Muna will be mad at me for telling you this, but, in line with my promise to keep all posts 100% spin-free, I’ll share …
Traditionally, in the child-rearing game, Muna plays good cop while I play bad cop. But I’ve been away for a while now, so Taj is relying on Muna a lot more lately. (Like most military spouses, she has to be both good cop AND bad cop.)
Taj rarely gives me problems; he’s a great kid. In fact, when he’s had his fill of Dad’s strict regimen, he’ll take comfort in Momma’s arms. But since I’ve been gone, Taj has been behaving badly. Of course, all kids behave badly sometimes, but I sense that Taj’s behavior lately is the result of him knowing that Dad is away for a while.
Sometimes I call Muna and can hear him on the phone misbehaving in the background. I JUST WANT TO JUMP THOUGH THE PHONE and GRAB HIM! But, since I can’t, I’m really challenged to find the right words to get him to behave, even though he can’t see the “seriousness” in my eyes.
I know Muna is doing a good job taking care of him, but I guess I’m just feeling guilty about the loss of control I have over my son (and his upbringing.) And, although I wish that Muna would lay the smackdown, I remember that Momma’s smackdown may be different that Daddy’s smackdown. (Where I might discipline Taj by giving him a good talking-to, Muna’s tactics might include depriving him of something he likes, like playing the Wii or eating dessert.) So, since I can’t be there, I trust that Muna is handling the situation … that’s really all I can do.